Late, but I left this to the last second again and I didn’t want to use that as an excuse to recycle something older. Not happy with the execution of this, but it’s a start on a memory that I know is important.
Title: Dauntless
WC: 1300
How about a story that starts with me cringing? Writing it starts like that, all these years later, and I think that would probably make you smile: Me cringing now, me cringing then.
That gives the wrong impression, though. It makes you out to be some kind of mean girl, and nothing could be further from the truth. You were and are the kindest person I’ve ever known.
Maybe it goes without saying that kindness is a liability in the teen years. Maybe that’s necessarily true, or maybe yours was—is—a special brand. I only know that the way you saw the world, and I really do hope you still see it that way, is how this story ends up with me cringing back then.
Generosity wasn’t something either of us had on hand. There was never quite enough to go around at home for either of us in any sense of the word—money, privacy, empathy, openness, care. We were a burden—an imposition—just by our existence. That was the subtext of our lives.
I was sullen about it a lot of the time, shamefaced when it meant falling through on a promise I’d have done anything to keep. I harbored some pretty direct-from-factory fantasies about how different it would be when I was finally on my own. I’d give and help and say yes to the people I loved as often as I possibly could. But you weren’t one to wait.
You were friends with everyone. You were involved with everything. You were an athlete and a singer, a musician and eventually student council president. You were so truly open hearted and interested and nice in the best sense of the word that the lines of demarcation that seemed so irrefutably to carve up the world simply didn’t exist for you. You were fearless. I wasn’t, but we were friends—very good friends—so sometimes I played fearless on TV.
We had two favorite teachers our Junior year: Honors English and Honors Algebra II/Trig/Precalc, with Mrs. and Mr. H., respectively. They were wonderful teachers and wonderful people who’d gotten married just a few years before.
English was British Lit that year. We started with Beowulf and The Venerable Bede. Mrs. H. explained that its power wasn’t on the page, but in the performance. She pulled out a box of ridiculous, chintzy props and had us all act out MacNeice’s “Dark Age Glosses.”
It was the weirdest, funnest thing. You and I ate it up. We wrote a framing device and commandeered a giant leather-bound tome from somewhere. I swiveled around in Mrs. H.’s desk chair, doing a cheesy Alistair Cooke impression welcoming our audience to Beefbone Theatre. We thought in that class. We put in ridiculously hard work and loved it At Christmas time, we passed the hat around and bought Mrs. H. the rubber chicken she’d confessed to coveting. She proudly, gratefully added it to her prop box.
Mr. H., strangely, was fun in much the same way. He was unashamedly smart. He was passionate about math and patient and demanding. He’d teach us the weirdest ways to solve problems and offer tiny amounts of extra credit for solving ridiculously hard questions. Most of us would turn them in. You and I definitely would. We’d go about them in the most arcane way possible and delight as much in finding out where we went wrong as in the triumph of getting it right.
That summer between Junior and Senior year Mr. and Mrs. H. had bought a house just a few blocks from mine. I don’t know how we knew that, though I suppose it’s possible I’d seen them emerging on my own walk to catch the bus each morning. It would make sense that I’d awkwardly wave as they climbed into their battered car, but I can’t help thinking it was something you found out, not me.
I can’t remember why you were at my house the day I’m thinking of. It wasn’t common, and it’s possible that the story really starts with you showing up unannounced in the little blue Geo Metro that made the distance between my neighborhood and yours less insurmountable than it had been before either of us could drive. It’s possible, now that I think about it, that you showed up with the harebrained, cringeworthy scheme in mind.
I would have been happy to see you anytime. That summer, I would have been ecstatic. The inevitable drift away from friends on the block was painfully well under way by then. I would have been bored, restless, stranded. I would have been so easily caught up in your fearlessness.
That’s what happened that day. You showed up at my door, smiling, and suddenly we were walking the block and a half to Mr. and Mrs. H.’s to show up at their door, unannounced and in the middle of summer.
I must have cringed. I must have imagined them staring at us—or at least me—coldly, blankly. I must have imagined them sneering and slamming the door in our faces. I must have been nearly paralyzed by things that never occurred to you as you rang the bell with a smile.
They were . . . perplexed, certainly. When I think about the door to their little ranch house swinging open, I see Mrs. H. blinking and conjuring up a smile, then Mr. H. looming behind her in the front hall. I see the look they exchanged and feel my face burning in the moment before they pushed open the screen door and welcomed us in.
We stood in the frontroom, more than a little awkwardly. Mr. H. was on his way out, but he hung around longer than he could afford to, I think. He chatted with us before giving Mrs. H. an awkward sideways hug and a kiss somewhere between her nose and her ear as he said goodbye.
They showed us the small bedroom where their reptiles lived. They had half a dozen lizards and snakes, and Mrs. H. laughed when she told us they called it the nursery. They told us the story of how they got together. Mrs. H. had thought Mr. H. was inviting her to see Evita along with a group of teachers. She’d panicked when he’d showed up alone and didn’t really come to the conclusion that it was a date until the eleventh hour.
I know it’s true that they told the story in tandem. It’s true that they both laughed about it, she more easily than he, but it seems like such an odd thing to tell two teenagers—two once and future students for Mr. H., who’d have us for Calculus the next year.
Maybe you asked about it. Maybe I cringed inwardly and listened eagerly, because I would have wanted to know. I would have desperately wanted to know everything about how they had put together such a weird and wonderful life together, but I was never fearless like you.
I don’t think we were there long. It might have 15 or 20 minutes. It’s hard to say. It’s compressed, jumbled into a spiral that memory has worked on so often since then. Those minutes, however few or many they were, were so crucial to me. In them, I understood that I was weird—really weird—and that I’d survive. I saw fully a way out that I’d only been able to glimpse at school.
I cringed. I was probably was the one to say we should go. But I also let out a terrible breath I’d been holding all my life, too. I stepped into the kind of person you thought I could be.
I cringed, but I got a little fearless, too.